Hello, thank you so much for visiting my site. I know that the fact you are here, looking on my site means you may well have experienced a loss or are preparing to. You may well not have any idea of what you need to or want to do. Be reassured that I will gently support, advise and guide you of all the possibilities that are available, most of which 99% of families are not aware of, and help you to create a loving, meaningful, personal and beautiful farewell for your relative.
I work in a unique way that puts YOUR needs at the heart of all I do, giving you as much time as you need, asking you what you feel would suit you and your families needs, starting with a blank piece of paper and creating something truly bespoke, not a one fits all package, but knowing how important a funeral is, how important it is to care for the person who has died in a gentle and loving way.
I live in the beautiful hamlet of Ebony, near Tenterden in Kent but often travel the length and breadth of the country supporting families, so if you would like a bespoke, beautiful and loving funeral, wherever you are I can help you.
So whether you are looking for a cremation or a burial, religious or non-religious I can help you create that goodbye you are looking for.
A bit about me:
I originally trained as a veterinary nurse before working as a sculptor for many years.
I set up my own business working as a holistic funeral director many years ago understanding that people needed not only more choice, but also more support than they had been, on the whole, from mainstream traditional funeral directors.
I am a multi-award winning Holistic Funeral Director, Specialist in Ceremonial Care of the Body, End of Life Doula for people and pets (PELS) and founded www.stagdirectcremations.co.uk to ensure that families are getting holistic support when choosing a direct cremation.
"Funerals are a sacred ceremony to honour &
celebrate the life of the person who has died.
This can only be created & carried out
with love, support & giving time"
A funeral ceremony is for you and your family to be able to honour and say goodbye to your loved one in a way that reflects your beliefs and wishes whatever they may be. A ceremony with the coffin present can be held anywhere, not just at a crematorium of church. Starting with a blank sheet of paper I guide & support families to create a truly bespoke & personal funeral.
Animals can play a huge part in our lives and honouring them in a way that gives the family time to give thanks and care for them after death can be important aspect in people being able to grieve healthily. I can help support you through the process of having your pet 'put to sleep' and care thereafter including ceremonial care of their body & saying goodbye.
"Holly came to us when the family had been told our beloved Dad would not recover from a rapid decline in his health. She gave us the strength to face his death in the knowledge that we had her support when the time came, and Dad was taken in to her loving care whilst we made plans for his funeral."
"The funeral itself was tailor-made to fit the personality of Dad and gave every person attending the most heartfelt opportunity to spend time with him, to celebrate his life and to say goodbye.
It was a day we did not face with dread as we put our total trust in Holly's attention to detail and we knew how special it would be. We can honestly say it was a beautiful, restorative and uplifting time spent together with Dad at the very heart of family life one last time"
"I wanted to say a wholehearted thank you for everything you did for us. It felt like an old friend was popping over when you visited, as you made us feel so at ease and cared for"
Children & Babies
Holistic & loving care
Losing a child is one of the most devastating
experiences to happen to a family.
I can support you & your family
through this time by:
Offering advise & guidance.
Supporting you in caring for your child after they have died by gently washing, anointing & dressing them.
If your child has died at home I can support you with specialist equipment to care for them at home by keeping them cool with a non-invasive cooling blanket, alternatively I can take them into my loving care.
Organising a bespoke, truly personal funeral ceremony.
Miscarriages and abortions
The death of a baby that is born alive and dies shortly after birth at any stage of pregnancy is referred to by health professionals as a neonatal death. These babies will have their birth and death officially registered whatever stage of pregnancy they are born at.
Babies born showing no signs of life before 24 weeks of gestation cannot by law be officially registered as a stillbirth and are referred to as a miscarriage. These babies do not have their birth or death officially registered.
However, at whatever stage a baby dies his or her parents are well within their rights to hold a ceremony to honour this tiny beings existence, they can care for their baby at home until the day of the burial or cremation.
I can support you through this entire process.
"You gave us the space and confidence to create our own tribute to Colin and we were all so pleased with how it came together. I felt that we could trust you from the outset and we were so grateful for your listening ear and gentle guidance with our own personal experiences of grief."
"You opened our eyes to the choices we had and embraced our quirks with grace and humour. When you left with Dad on Monday I didn’t feel he was alone as you were with him.
I really am so very pleased that we had you there – you were just what we needed."
"Holly is the most beautiful and most gentle soul that I have had the pleasure meet. She did my Nicholle proud xxx"
"To gently wash, dry, anoint & dress your
loved one can be one of the most profound &
loving experiences of your life"
With gentle support & guidance from Holly, ceremonial care of the body after death can be a precious last act of love. It allows time to process the death as well as time to honour the body that carried your loved one's soul/energy/consciousness.
it is with my deepest and everlasting gratitude that I am writing this. When we connected at a networking event, little did I know that I would be needing services of a Funeral Director so soon. A month later when my beloved partner and soulmate died as a result of RTA it was you I turned to for help. It was you who took care of all the arrangements. It was you who gently guided me through the fog and bewilderment that so abruptly descended on me. It was you who honoured and dressed my partner's broken body with the utmost of respect. Neither I nor he would have wished to be in better hands. Your attention to detail, integrity and professionalism were above and beyond the norm, they were simply outstanding. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.